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mechanical sex ... or emotional?

Se3a

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I don’t know what you’re talking about
I’m in a very happy relationship for over a year now
Sometimes minds click, but it is not required..
exactly my question!
what abt emotions
and why this "sometimes " is ok why not always and if it is sometimes , why not to break up ! eno chou 2ella 3aze !
one year ok ba3den mich 7a tetjawazo
 

Resign

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exactly my question!
what abt emotions
and why this "sometimes " is ok why not always and if it is sometimes , why not to break up ! eno chou 2ella 3aze !

You didn’t understand my point...
My relationship is emotional
i meant sometimes hookups can turn emotional...
And sometimes they don’t
 

Indie

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what do you think abt it , u prefer the mechanical without any commitment or emotional with a relationship that contain a future? or we cannot consider the first as without no future ?

Even if you have feelings for each other and talk about the future, it doesn't mean anything. They can change their mind at any time. They could even be lying, for all you know.

So...don't have a sexual relationship with someone who is not your husband or wife. But choose your husband or wife wisely. This will spare you many headaches.

If he / she can't wait until marriage, then he / she is not in control of his / her urges; therefore, not good husband / wife material.
 

Se3a

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Even if you have feelings for each other and talk about the future, it doesn't mean anything. They can change their mind at any time. They could even be lying, for all you know.

So...don't have a sexual relationship with someone who is not your husband or wife. But choose your husband or wife wisely. This will spare you many headaches.

If he / she can't wait until marriage, then he / she is not in control of his / her urges; therefore, not good husband / wife material.
Well dalil layk chou Sar bel Hariri ??
 

Myso

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Even if you have feelings for each other and talk about the future, it doesn't mean anything. They can change their mind at any time. They could even be lying, for all you know.

So...don't have a sexual relationship with someone who is not your husband or wife. But choose your husband or wife wisely. This will spare you many headaches.

If he / she can't wait until marriage, then he / she is not in control of his / her urges; therefore, not good husband / wife material.

Problem is that you wouldn't know if you are sexually compatible or not. When sex is 90% of marriage.

I personally think it's better to live with your fiance and have sex with her for a while. The fact that she's your finance and you bought her an expensive ring is enough commitment.
 

Myso

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what do you think abt it , u prefer the mechanical without any commitment or emotional with a relationship that contain a future? or we cannot consider the first as without no future ?

If it seems mechanical, then whoever doing it is in inexperienced and awkward. If it seems emotional, then there's a lot of delusion and هودسة going on. The best sex I had felt animal-like and raunchy but not very emotionally committed.

I believe in Catherine Breillat's theory that sexual pleasure comes from the consensual vilification of the woman. Snake choking a Mouse scenario. I felt personally that's where most the pleasure lies for both partners. Otherwise it's just vanilla and boring.
 

Isabella

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Sex with the right person is never mechanical, I'm not sure who even voted for mechanical that's like the worst kind of sex to have! At that point you're just phoning it in
 

Indie

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Problem is that you wouldn't know if you are sexually compatible or not.

Unless you're into some weird stuff, or you think pornography is real, there is no such thing as "sexually incompatible." If you and your spouse love each other, the rest is details...you'll figure it out.

When sex is 90% of marriage.

If that's what you think, don't get married. You'll be very disappointed.

I personally think it's better to live with your fiance and have sex with her for a while. The fact that she's your finance and you bought her an expensive ring is enough commitment.

If you're that committed, you wouldn't need a possible way out.

The best sex I had felt animal-like and raunchy but not very emotionally committed.

I believe in Catherine Breillat's theory that sexual pleasure comes from the consensual vilification of the woman.

Not to be mean, but this doesn't sound cool. It's incredibly cheesy and immature.
 

Indie

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Not to be mean, but this doesn't sound cool. It's incredibly cheesy and immature.

Just to explain what I mean: only a woman with low self-esteem will accept to be treated that way, and only a man who isn't fully emotionally developped will treat a woman that way. Hence the immature part.

As for the cheesy part...there is nothing more mainstream than people trying to be sexually debauched and thinking they're some freedom fighting rebels or something. There is nothing special or impressive about it.
 

Myso

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Just to explain what I mean: only a woman with low self-esteem will accept to be treated that way, and only a man who isn't fully emotionally developped will treat a woman that way. Hence the immature part.

As for the cheesy part...there is nothing more mainstream than people trying to be sexually debauched and thinking they're some freedom fighting rebels or something. There is nothing special or impressive about it.

I personally find anyone that believes in some god-endowed "love" and "sacredness" between couples to be cheesy and doesn't know anything about his origins, sexuality, biology or evolution. And I've seen people who held your Church-inspired bronzed-aged views. And I've seen how they changed. Alfred Kinsey comes to mind.

I look at humans as slightly improved chimpanzees. Sex in apes is all about male dominance. There are exceptions but that's generally what kicks it for me after many sexual experiences with women from all races.
 

Myso

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"Love" is your mind playing tricks on you. It's a form of mental obsession that dies quickly when it touches the ground of reality.

Sexual compatibility is very important. If you marry a man with a very low libido when your body requires a lot of sex during the day, it's inevitable that you're going to have problems. Your workarounds will always lead to the man feeling less of a man if he tries to satisfy you in other ways. Or lose all interest in you and preoccupy himself with books or the TV.

Not to mention men with micro-penises, men with ejaculation problems that will constantly nag and feel dreadful about their weakness in bed, women with nasty body odors, etc etc.

It makes sense to fully experience your fiance in every way and spend days living with him. To better your odds at marriage. Instead of just accepting the package blindly and hoping to God that it works out. Just my two cents.
 

Indie

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@Mysobalanus you're just repeating clichés. For example, studies show that couples who live together before marriage have higher rates of divorce.
 
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