I have noticed the same. As a woman, I haven't had to deal with such attitude. It's something that happens mostly between men.
However, simply walking down the street, especially in certain areas, is very uncomfortable because of the verbal harrassment, staring, and even being followed by creeps. I was once feeling upset and went for a walk to relax but ended up more upset because I wasn't left alone. This was in a very public place, in broad daylight.
A lot of men in Lebanon seem to have nothing better to do than to hang out on the sidewalk in front of shops. You can't walk to the grocery store without being stared at creepily.
There is also a general trait that is not exclusive to men, but shared by women as well: people constantly talk badly about each other. You visit person A and they trash talk person B and vice versa. Wherever you go, all you hear is people gossiping about each other and tearing each other down. Even if you refuse to get involved, they just don't shut up. They go on and on until you have a headache and want to run away. By the time you leave, you are drained.
In fact, Lebanese people talk way too much, in general, and never let you put a word in...never ask about you except to pry in your business in a judgmental way. All they talk about is themselves...either to boast (over the stupidest things) or to complain (over the stupidest things).
People in Lebanon are self-obsessed, arrogant, superficial, petty, and mean-spirited. They only "care" about you if they think they can gain something from you.
There are exceptions, of course, but the more I visit Lebanon, the more Western I feel.
Oh, let me remind you of Samir Geagea's "bay bayyah" remark! Samir Geagea is the Christ incarnate to some Maronite Christians. The same mentality, all of them. Hot headed and temperamental, impulsive, quick to display fireworks from their hotheadedness. They are always on the lookout for trouble. Zero idea about humility. Arrogance is sanctified as machismo. Inherent wickedness and sugarcoated and justified hatred for one another.
For instance, why do Lebanese bosses find pleasure in yelling and cursing instead of explaining and being understanding? In some of the countries I have been to and worked, the Lebanese employer is seen as abusive and exploitative. They are in competition with the Indians and Chinese for being seen as "exploitative". And seeing how Lebanese society is and how our leaders exploit their followers for power and inheritance of political posts, and how the poor/weak/lower classes have no say in the future of their country, I am not shocked! Many of our MPs are rich billionaires. How would a billionaire feel with the less privileged in the society? How are we going to instill change? Our culture is more about power, money, and class. Even things like religion, sect and other identities we create to discriminate on are just means.
Financial/emotional Insecurity, uninteresting life, hopelessness and no future prospects, lack of cultural interests, simple peer pressure, impressing a potential romantic prospect, or just venting because marto nekdéSomething about typical "Lebanese" that really annoys me is that bi fansou ktirrrrr byenzal fik kel saroukh akbar men el teniii 3a asas enta we7id habilee w msada2 kelshi ye3ni..
Men weyn jeybin hal tefshikhhh kellou?
It is due to the Lebanese DNA. They tend to believe that due to him being your boss you are his slave. He gives you a measly $800 a month and thinks that he has done you a favour, 3refet kif?
I saw this with my own eyes. Except the poor employee was probably not even making half that amount. She was a young Palestinian or Syrian girl working at a café. Her boss was a brute and she seemed terrorized. You would think he would pretend to be civil in front of the clients, but not at all. The poor girl was so nervous she dropped something on the floor, and of course that only made him behave more aggressively towards her.
His attitude was so appalling, I almost yelled at him. But I knew he would only take it out on her, later on, so I contained myself. I waited until he wasn't looking and gave her some money. I will never go there again, and I hope she found a better boss to work for.
There is a lot in what you started and it needs some unpacking.
1) on the character / temparement
I don’t think it is dissimilar than many Mediterranean / near easterners... importance of showing off, misplaced pride, “masculinity”, “hot headed”... you’d find this in Sephardic Jews (watch “la vérité si je mens”), and in southern Italians, French, Algerians, Moroccans, etc. I wouldn’t equate it to “seriousness” though. When you say serious I think German or Swiss German. Somehow that seems quite different
2) add on this the fact that we have not had any “civic” teaching, no appreciation of the common good or sense of accountability to it. Part is the fault of the French and then we made things worse during the war
3) also, there is a broad sense of impunity, since the war, that makes the quickly makes the bravado become deadly... generations of Lebanese have lost basic sense of decency and understanding of value of human life
4) finally, I’d argue Lebanese May be in a social “panic mode” right now. The country is all but destroyed economically and ecologically, the future is quite bleak for the coming generation and the orchestra of politicians is playing on the sinking titanic. This may contribute to making things seem even worse
This is a very good topic and worth maybe some more interactive exchange (not sure how it can be set up). At the end of the day, we need to figure out which pieces can we influence, which need to be influenced and how to do it. Either way, this takes generations