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Fun Traits In A Partner

Indie

Legendary Member
Orange Room Supporter
The conversations in the "Ladies and Gents" thread gave me the idea for this thread.

What qualities do you look for in a girlfriend / boyfriend or spouse? What are turn-offs or dealbreakers?
 

Iron Maiden

Paragon of Bacon
Orange Room Supporter
The conversations in the "Ladies and Gents" thread gave me the idea for this thread.

What qualities do you look for in a girlfriend / boyfriend or spouse? What are turn-offs or dealbreakers?
Dealbreaker: no curves and/or dumb as brick

Turn ons: curves and knows how to enjoy themselve
 

Lebanese-Nationalist

Well-Known Member
Honestly, honesty and stability are the main things I’m looking for. Of course there are other considerations such as personality, looks, and religious background.

This hookup and “see you later I’m bored” culture of dating in the West is complete garbage.
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
Orange Room Supporter
To be perfectly honest and so I wouldn't rant too much if I had to build the perfect partner for me from scratch I'm pretty sure he would be quite close to my husband except I would kinda reduce the stubbornness and make him listen to me more often :p although then I wouldn't enjoy telling him I was right so much so I guess I'd keep him as is lol!

Biggest deal breakers for me back when I was dating were: 1. Boring, 2. Orders milk and cornflakes in a restaurant, 3. Asked me if studying physics meant I was going to be working in a gym, seriously! 4. Guys who put other people down, are rude and disrespectful to service people, etc. 5. Any guy who insists on paying because "he's a gentleman"...

I'm pretty sure there were a lot more deal breakers for me but these guys in particular jump out as the most terrible dates I've had lol
 

Iron Maiden

Paragon of Bacon
Orange Room Supporter
To be perfectly honest and so I wouldn't rant too much if I had to build the perfect partner for me from scratch I'm pretty sure he would be quite close to my husband except I would kinda reduce the stubbornness and make him listen to me more often :p although then I wouldn't enjoy telling him I was right so much so I guess I'd keep him as is lol!

Biggest deal breakers for me back when I was dating were: 1. Boring, 2. Orders milk and cornflakes in a restaurant, 3. Asked me if studying physics meant I was going to be working in a gym, seriously! 4. Guys who put other people down, are rude and disrespectful to service people, etc. 5. Any guy who insists on paying because "he's a gentleman"...

I'm pretty sure there were a lot more deal breakers for me but these guys in particular jump out as the most terrible dates I've had lol
“Asks for milk and cornflakes at a restaurant” is probably the most wtf thing i hav read in this firum since i’ve been here.

You win the internetz for today.. i need to lie down and digest this
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
Orange Room Supporter
“Asks for milk and cornflakes at a restaurant” is probably the most wtf thing i hav read in this firum since i’ve been here.

You win the internetz for today.. i need to lay down and digest this

It gets worse! It was at Al 3erzal in faraya!! He picked me up from my place, I took a taxi back home!
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
Orange Room Supporter
But did they actually give him what he ordered?? Is the waiter still confused to this day?? Wtf man! how do you find those people???

Both me and the waiter looked at him waiting for an indication that he was kidding, he proceeded to explain how he eats nothing but milk and cornflakes because it was apparently quite healthy... in my defense, he was very pretty
 

SeaAb

Legendary Member
Staff member
Super Penguin
1. Funny. If she can't make me laugh there is no chance.
2. Loves animals.
3. Smart and attractive.
4. Kind-hearted and non-judgemental.
 

Indie

Legendary Member
Orange Room Supporter
Dealbreaker: no curves and/or dumb as brick

Turn ons: curves and knows how to enjoy themselve

@Iron Maiden that's it?! Come on you can do better! I'll set the example :p

Traits I want in a partner:

- Same religion and values as me
- Is either from the same culture as me, or fully embraces my culture and roots
- Has a similar lifestyle and goals to mine
- Faithful and trustworthy
- Kindhearted but not naive or a doormat
- Intelligent but not arrogant
- Wise and emotionally mature
- Financially stable but not a workaholic
- Courageous in front of challenges
- A good father
- Respects my family
- Attractive, classy, and has good manners

Dealbreakers (brace yourselves :p)...

- Any kind of abuse: verbal, physical, or emotional.

- Smoking, doing drugs, addiction to alcohol.

- Playing computer games, watching sports excessively, gambling.

- Watching porn, going to strip clubs, being obsessed with sex, cheating.

- Being manipulative.

- Wasting your time: flirting one day and acting like just a friend the next, treating you like a "bouche-trou" and only showing up when it's convenient for him.

- Having a female best friend. If you're not your significant other's best friend then what are you for, cooking and cleaning?

- Not viewing the relationship as an equal partnership.

- Not encouraging and helping you in achieving your dreams, putting roadblocks in your way, and making your life more difficult.

- Not caring about what you need and want; only about what he can get out of the relationship.

- Taking for granted the sacrifices you make for the relationship.

- Not knowing how to respectfully communicate through disagreements.

- Not giving you breathing space or privacy; or, the opposite, being distant and completely guarded.

- Being self-righteous and unforgiving. Thinking he's better than other people.

- Thinking he's above caring for his appearance. Especially if he expects you to care for yours. Getting upset if you give him style tips and stubbornly sticking to his outdated, sloppy clothes.

- On the opposite end of the spectrum, being obsessively vain and flashy with his style, car, house, etc.

- Not caring about fitness, health, and proper nutrition; or, being obsessed with it for purely appearance related purposes, such as building huge muscles.

- Spending most of his time in front of the computer or TV screen. Ignoring real life and people to spend time on his phone.

- Too lazy to work on improving himself physically, intellectually, culturally, professionally, emotionally, socially, or spiritually.

- Being boring. Not biting into life with energy. Closed-minded to interesting experiences and adventures.

- Being dirty, unorganized, having bad manners, and disgusting habits.

- Being cheap; or, the opposite, irresponsible with money.

- Being cheesy. I'm romantic but everything in good taste and within its limits.

- Travelling for work.
 

SeaAb

Legendary Member
Staff member
Super Penguin
@Iron Maiden that's it?! Come on you can do better! I'll set the example :p

Traits I want in a partner:

- Same religion and values as me
- Is either from the same culture as me, or fully embraces my culture and roots
- Has a similar lifestyle and goals to mine
- Faithful and trustworthy
- Kindhearted but not naive or a doormat
- Intelligent but not arrogant
- Wise and emotionally mature
- Financially stable but not a workaholic
- Courageous in front of challenges
- A good father
- Respects my family
- Attractive, classy, and has good manners

Dealbreakers (brace yourselves :p)...

- Any kind of abuse: verbal, physical, or emotional.

- Smoking, doing drugs, addiction to alcohol.

- Playing computer games, watching sports excessively, gambling.

- Watching porn, going to strip clubs, being obsessed with sex, cheating.

- Being manipulative.

- Wasting your time: flirting one day and acting like just a friend the next, treating you like a "bouche-trou" and only showing up when it's convenient for him.

- Having a female best friend. If you're not your significant other's best friend then what are you for, cooking and cleaning?

- Not viewing the relationship as an equal partnership.

- Not encouraging and helping you in achieving your dreams, putting roadblocks in your way, and making your life more difficult.

- Not caring about what you need and want; only about what he can get out of the relationship.

- Taking for granted the sacrifices you make for the relationship.

- Not knowing how to respectfully communicate through disagreements.

- Not giving you breathing space or privacy; or, the opposite, being distant and completely guarded.

- Being self-righteous and unforgiving. Thinking he's better than other people.

- Thinking he's above caring for his appearance. Especially if he expects you to care for yours. Getting upset if you give him style tips and stubbornly sticking to his outdated, sloppy clothes.

- On the opposite end of the spectrum, being obsessively vain and flashy with his style, car, house, etc.

- Not caring about fitness, health, and proper nutrition; or, being obsessed with it for purely appearance related purposes, such as building huge muscles.

- Spending most of his time in front of the computer or TV screen. Ignoring real life and people to spend time on his phone.

- Too lazy to work on improving himself physically, intellectually, culturally, professionally, emotionally, socially, or spiritually.

- Being boring. Not biting into life with energy. Closed-minded to interesting experiences and adventures.

- Being dirty, unorganized, having bad manners, and disgusting habits.

- Being cheap; or, the opposite, irresponsible with money.

- Being cheesy. I'm romantic but everything in good taste and within its limits.

- Travelling for work.
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
Orange Room Supporter
@Iron Maiden that's it?! Come on you can do better! I'll set the example :p

Traits I want in a partner:

- Same religion and values as me
- Is either from the same culture as me, or fully embraces my culture and roots
- Has a similar lifestyle and goals to mine
- Faithful and trustworthy
- Kindhearted but not naive or a doormat
- Intelligent but not arrogant
- Wise and emotionally mature
- Financially stable but not a workaholic
- Courageous in front of challenges
- A good father
- Respects my family
- Attractive, classy, and has good manners

Dealbreakers (brace yourselves :p)...

- Any kind of abuse: verbal, physical, or emotional.

- Smoking, doing drugs, addiction to alcohol.

- Playing computer games, watching sports excessively, gambling.

- Watching porn, going to strip clubs, being obsessed with sex, cheating.

- Being manipulative.

- Wasting your time: flirting one day and acting like just a friend the next, treating you like a "bouche-trou" and only showing up when it's convenient for him.

- Having a female best friend. If you're not your significant other's best friend then what are you for, cooking and cleaning?

- Not viewing the relationship as an equal partnership.

- Not encouraging and helping you in achieving your dreams, putting roadblocks in your way, and making your life more difficult.

- Not caring about what you need and want; only about what he can get out of the relationship.

- Taking for granted the sacrifices you make for the relationship.

- Not knowing how to respectfully communicate through disagreements.

- Not giving you breathing space or privacy; or, the opposite, being distant and completely guarded.

- Being self-righteous and unforgiving. Thinking he's better than other people.

- Thinking he's above caring for his appearance. Especially if he expects you to care for yours. Getting upset if you give him style tips and stubbornly sticking to his outdated, sloppy clothes.

- On the opposite end of the spectrum, being obsessively vain and flashy with his style, car, house, etc.

- Not caring about fitness, health, and proper nutrition; or, being obsessed with it for purely appearance related purposes, such as building huge muscles.

- Spending most of his time in front of the computer or TV screen. Ignoring real life and people to spend time on his phone.

- Too lazy to work on improving himself physically, intellectually, culturally, professionally, emotionally, socially, or spiritually.

- Being boring. Not biting into life with energy. Closed-minded to interesting experiences and adventures.

- Being dirty, unorganized, having bad manners, and disgusting habits.

- Being cheap; or, the opposite, irresponsible with money.

- Being cheesy. I'm romantic but everything in good taste and within its limits.

- Travelling for work.

Watching porn is a deal breaker ? Are you sure you're looking for a human partner :p?
 

joseph_lubnan

Legendary Member
@Iron Maiden that's it?! Come on you can do better! I'll set the example :p

Traits I want in a partner:

- Same religion and values as me
- Is either from the same culture as me, or fully embraces my culture and roots
- Has a similar lifestyle and goals to mine
- Faithful and trustworthy
- Kindhearted but not naive or a doormat
- Intelligent but not arrogant
- Wise and emotionally mature
- Financially stable but not a workaholic
- Courageous in front of challenges
- A good father
- Respects my family
- Attractive, classy, and has good manners

Dealbreakers (brace yourselves :p)...

- Any kind of abuse: verbal, physical, or emotional.

- Smoking, doing drugs, addiction to alcohol.

- Playing computer games, watching sports excessively, gambling.

- Watching porn, going to strip clubs, being obsessed with sex, cheating.

- Being manipulative.

- Wasting your time: flirting one day and acting like just a friend the next, treating you like a "bouche-trou" and only showing up when it's convenient for him.

- Having a female best friend. If you're not your significant other's best friend then what are you for, cooking and cleaning?

- Not viewing the relationship as an equal partnership.

- Not encouraging and helping you in achieving your dreams, putting roadblocks in your way, and making your life more difficult.

- Not caring about what you need and want; only about what he can get out of the relationship.

- Taking for granted the sacrifices you make for the relationship.

- Not knowing how to respectfully communicate through disagreements.

- Not giving you breathing space or privacy; or, the opposite, being distant and completely guarded.

- Being self-righteous and unforgiving. Thinking he's better than other people.

- Thinking he's above caring for his appearance. Especially if he expects you to care for yours. Getting upset if you give him style tips and stubbornly sticking to his outdated, sloppy clothes.

- On the opposite end of the spectrum, being obsessively vain and flashy with his style, car, house, etc.

- Not caring about fitness, health, and proper nutrition; or, being obsessed with it for purely appearance related purposes, such as building huge muscles.

- Spending most of his time in front of the computer or TV screen. Ignoring real life and people to spend time on his phone.

- Too lazy to work on improving himself physically, intellectually, culturally, professionally, emotionally, socially, or spiritually.

- Being boring. Not biting into life with energy. Closed-minded to interesting experiences and adventures.

- Being dirty, unorganized, having bad manners, and disgusting habits.

- Being cheap; or, the opposite, irresponsible with money.

- Being cheesy. I'm romantic but everything in good taste and within its limits.

- Travelling for work.
Damn that's a bloody deal breakers list!! Lol how did you come up with all of this??
 

joseph_lubnan

Legendary Member
Both me and the waiter looked at him waiting for an indication that he was kidding, he proceeded to explain how he eats nothing but milk and cornflakes because it was apparently quite healthy... in my defense, he was very pretty
How can you not be pretty if all you're eating is milk and cornflakes :)
 

Iron Maiden

Paragon of Bacon
Orange Room Supporter
just letting you know(terbi7 jmile galore) i had to log on from my pc to type this :angel:

@Iron Maiden that's it?! Come on you can do better! I'll set the example :p

Traits I want in a partner:

- Same religion and values as me
- Is either from the same culture as me, or fully embraces my culture and roots
- Has a similar lifestyle and goals to mine
- Faithful and trustworthy
- Kindhearted but not naive or a doormat
- Intelligent but not arrogant
- Wise and emotionally mature
- Financially stable but not a workaholic
- Courageous in front of challenges
- A good father
- Respects my family
- Attractive, classy, and has good manners

let start with turn-ons shall wee :p

- Same religion/values/culture easily findable, go lurk in sunday mass and ogle all the devout hotties, thats what a friend did and it worked :p
- Respects your authoritay family, depends on how likeable one's family is you know, if u have a *****y sister he aint gonna like her :angel:
- faithful, trustworthy, intelligent sure thing as most people are not masochistic

the more random part:
- financially stable but not a workaholic well in order to get a good income one has to be workaholic for a certain period in their lives especially in their 20s 30s, so i'd be more malleable in that department, and in my case irl with my gf we chose to be very cool when it came to this.
- good father, whats the metrics :p
- attractive, classy/manners get urrself a buttler, he also fetches you cold martinis on top of that :pompus:
- courageous u wont know before it needs to happen

Lawd give me strength for this!
Dealbreakers (brace yourselves :p)...

- Any kind of abuse: verbal, physical, or emotional.
- i would invest in self defence courses, just in case
- Smoking, doing drugs, addiction to alcohol.
- I can agree on that its more of hygienic choice
- Playing computer games,
- videogames and boardgames can create a very strong friendship bonds also hes gonna be letting you win a lot which a great mood and ego booster! so lots of positivity in that department miss I'm too good for games :p

watching sports excessively, gambling.
@Skunk you're out m8 :D

- Watching porn, going to strip clubs, being obsessed with sex, cheating.
no one wants to be cheated on, thats a given, but if the guy aint getting enough, i can assure you hes gonna be either watching porn, or applying to your next door isis chapter/strip club :p

A certain sexual availability is fun, makes you lose weight and keeps the partner busy enough as to not go looking elsewhere, did i say it was fun :angel:

- Being manipulative.

- Wasting your time: flirting one day and acting like just a friend the next, treating you like a "bouche-trou" and only showing up when it's convenient for him.
delving into sociopath realm over here
- Having a female best friend. If you're not your significant other's best friend then what are you for, cooking and cleaning?
- yea works both ways, how do people not see the jealousy part develop is beyond me
- Not viewing the relationship as an equal partnership.

- Not encouraging and helping you in achieving your dreams, putting roadblocks in your way, and making your life more difficult.

- Not caring about what you need and want; only about what he can get out of the relationship.

- Taking for granted the sacrifices you make for the relationship.
- does ur partner even like you at this point :p
- Not knowing how to respectfully communicate through disagreements.
- Good grace another point i totaly agree with you, people who cant understand that having an argument over something doesnt mean you despise their very existence on this planet need to wake up..
- Not giving you breathing space or privacy; or, the opposite, being distant and completely guarded.
- Now either you're too hot and the guy cant stay more than 2 feet away from you or you're too hot and he feels intimidated
- Being self-righteous and unforgiving. Thinking he's better than other people.
@manifesto

- Thinking he's above caring for his appearance. Especially if he expects you to care for yours. Getting upset if you give him style tips and stubbornly sticking to his outdated, sloppy clothes.

- On the opposite end of the spectrum, being obsessively vain and flashy with his style, car, house, etc.

- Not caring about fitness, health, and proper nutrition; or, being obsessed with it for purely appearance related purposes, such as building huge muscles.
- if the guy is not into fitness, its up to you to charm him into the gym, bubble butts galore plus he'll be ogling you in tight sports attire, thats always a plus hehe
- Spending most of his time in front of the computer or TV screen. Ignoring real life and people to spend time on his phone.
- you've got a problem with devs? ;)
- Too lazy to work on improving himself physically, intellectually, culturally, professionally, emotionally, socially, or spiritually.

- Being boring. Not biting into life with energy. Closed-minded to interesting experiences and adventures.

- Being dirty, unorganized, having bad manners, and disgusting habits.

- Being cheap; or, the opposite, irresponsible with money.

- Being cheesy. I'm romantic but everything in good taste and within its limits.
- Where are you looking for ur partners jeez woman!! @Isabella stop giving out tips abt milk drinking men will ya
- Travelling for work.

- life's a *****, u cant choose someone of the basis of their livelihood, plus look on he bright side yo guys will be traveling more together and staying in hotels at the expense of the company :D

all in all, i think we're gonna have to get you some cats miss indie :smuggrin:

PS: 15minutes later and am still struggling with the formatting of this thing, i kinda hate you for it but a challenge was presented and i heeded the call
 
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