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Fun Traits In A Partner

gramsci

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The women of my dream : Intelligent with tough personality.. Have a good culture. Marxist-leninist ideological background. Have some sense of humour..caring as a mother.
 

Iron Maiden

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The women of my dream : Intelligent with tough personality.. Have a good culture. Marxist-leninist ideological background. Have some sense of humour..caring as a mother.

man you're gonna end up with the biggest capitalist entrepreneur in Italy, mark my words for i am prophet
 

GrumpForTrump

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To be perfectly honest and so I wouldn't rant too much if I had to build the perfect partner for me from scratch I'm pretty sure he would be quite close to my husband except I would kinda reduce the stubbornness and make him listen to me more often :p although then I wouldn't enjoy telling him I was right so much so I guess I'd keep him as is lol!

Biggest deal breakers for me back when I was dating were: 1. Boring, 2. Orders milk and cornflakes in a restaurant, 3. Asked me if studying physics meant I was going to be working in a gym, seriously! 4. Guys who put other people down, are rude and disrespectful to service people, etc. 5. Any guy who insists on paying because "he's a gentleman"...

I'm pretty sure there were a lot more deal breakers for me but these guys in particular jump out as the most terrible dates I've had lol

I think it's still socially expected for a man to pay the restaurant bill, even in Western societies.
This is especially true when it comes to dating.

If between friends, then it's fine to split the bill, or let the "woman" in the group pay.
 

Indie

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just letting you know(terbi7 jmile galore) i had to log on from my pc to type this :angel:



let start with turn-ons shall wee :p

- Same religion/values/culture easily findable, go lurk in sunday mass and ogle all the devout hotties, thats what a friend did and it worked :p

I wouldn't go to church just for that, but if I meet someone there by chance, why not :p

- Respects your authoritay family, depends on how likeable one's family is you know, if u have a *****y sister he aint gonna like her :angel:

I meant "show respect towards" not "respect their authority."

the more random part:
- financially stable but not a workaholic well in order to get a good income one has to be workaholic for a certain period in their lives especially in their 20s 30s, so i'd be more malleable in that department, and in my case irl with my gf we chose to be very cool when it came to this.

You're right...I am malleable in that department since I can get carried away in work and projects I'm passionate about, as well. But I always make time for the relationship; and if he really wants to, he can make that effort.

Besides, it is documented that after a certain amount of work per day, you become less productive. So workaholics are just using work as an escape from other responsabilities.

- good father, whats the metrics :p

We need another thread for that :p

- attractive, classy/manners get urrself a buttler, he also fetches you cold martinis on top of that :pompus:

Don't you want an attractive and classy lady with good manners? What are you going to do? Get a butler? :lol:

- i would invest in self defence courses, just in case

Oh...it won't even get close to a point that requires defense. Those ones are out at the first red flag.

- videogames and boardgames can create a very strong friendship bonds also hes gonna be letting you win a lot which a great mood and ego booster! so lots of positivity in that department miss I'm too good for games :p

I'm cool with boardgames :p

@Skunk you're out m8 :D

:lol:

Where is Skunk these days?

no one wants to be cheated on, thats a given, but if the guy aint getting enough, i can assure you hes gonna be either watching porn, or applying to your next door isis chapter/strip club :p

A certain sexual availability is fun, makes you lose weight and keeps the partner busy enough as to not go looking elsewhere, did i say it was fun :angel:

Cheaters cheat even if they have what they need at home.

delving into sociopath realm over here

No, you got it wrong...expecting basic courtesy is needy :p

- yea works both ways, how do people not see the jealousy part develop is beyond me

It's not so much about jealousy but questioning the meaning of the relationship. If your partner has his or her emotional and affective needs met elsewhere, why are you even in the picture?

- does ur partner even like you at this point :p

Of course! The problem is that I'm not generous enough to completely disappear as a person and become his slave :p

- Good grace another point i totaly agree with you, people who cant understand that having an argument over something doesnt mean you despise their very existence on this planet need to wake up..

Sérieux.

- Now either you're too hot and the guy cant stay more than 2 feet away from you or you're too hot and he feels intimidated

Well that's a positive spin if there ever was one!

Mr Needy and Mr insecure need to get their act together for their own sake. Also because they're being annoying.


:lol:

- if the guy is not into fitness, its up to you to charm him into the gym, bubble butts galore plus he'll be ogling you in tight sports attire, thats always a plus hehe

He doesn't even need to go to the gym. But he should do some physical activity...even mild things like walking / hiking together or going on bike rides...anything he enjoys as long as he doesn't have a completely sedentary lifestyle.

- you've got a problem with devs? ;)

Nah...my line of work requires a lot of computer use too. But that does not excuse being in front of a screen 15 hours a day.

- Where are you looking for ur partners jeez woman!! @Isabella stop giving out tips abt milk drinking men will ya

It's tough for women out there, man! :lol:

- life's a *****, u cant choose someone of the basis of their livelihood, plus look on he bright side yo guys will be traveling more together and staying in hotels at the expense of the company :D

My line of work requires travelling too. Travelling together is ok :p

I just don't want someone who is always away with work.

all in all, i think we're gonna have to get you some cats miss indie :smuggrin:

I'm allergic to cats :lol::lol::lol:

PS: 15minutes later and am still struggling with the formatting of this thing, i kinda hate you for it but a challenge was presented and i heeded the call

I see what you did there!
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
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I think it's still socially expected for a man to pay the restaurant bill, even in Western societies.
This is especially true when it comes to dating.

If between friends, then it's fine to split the bill, or let the "woman" in the group pay.

For me it's never about what's socially acceptable, first dates where the man insists on paying despite me going out of my way to pay and after I explicitly tell him it makes me uncomfortable just because he wants to show me "he's a gentleman" actually backfire... What this tells me is that he's a "nice guy" and definitely not genuine, insisted on paying just because it's the social protocol and not because I'm comfortable with it, not to mention him paying comes with a set of expectations, like I paid for your meal I get to kiss you good night or whatever...

My policy back when I was dating was first date either I pay for myself, or the both of us, or there won't be a second date!
 

Indie

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I dont think the cats stand a chance either with this deal breaker laundry list :)

You all have just as long of a laundry list. You just don't know it yet. You'll find out after you're married and your spouse starts getting on your nerves :p
 

joseph_lubnan

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For me it's never about what's socially acceptable, first dates where the man insists on paying despite me going out of my way to pay and after I explicitly tell him it makes me uncomfortable just because he wants to show me "he's a gentleman" actually backfire... What this tells me is that he's a "nice guy" and definitely not genuine, insisted on paying just because it's the social protocol and not because I'm comfortable with it, not to mention him paying comes with a set of expectations, like I paid for your meal I get to kiss you good night or whatever...

My policy back when I was dating was first date either I pay for myself, or the both of us, or there won't be a second date!
If a guy doesn't insist would you have said perhaps he is cheap? :) It's a tricky situation either way :)
 

joseph_lubnan

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I wouldn't go to church just for that, but if I meet someone there by chance, why not :p



I meant "show respect towards" not "respect their authority."



You're right...I am malleable in that department since I can get carried away in work and projects I'm passionate about, as well. But I always make time for the relationship; and if he really wants to, he can make that effort.

Besides, it is documented that after a certain amount of work per day, you become less productive. So workaholics are just using work as an escape from other responsabilities.



We need another thread for that :p



Don't you want an attractive and classy lady with good manners? What are you going to do? Get a butler? :lol:



Oh...it won't even get close to a point that requires defense. Those ones are out at the first red flag.



I'm cool with boardgames :p



:lol:

Where is Skunk these days?



Cheaters cheat even if they have what they need at home.



No, you got it wrong...expecting basic courtesy is needy :p



It's not so much about jealousy but questioning the meaning of the relationship. If your partner has his or her emotional and affective needs met elsewhere, why are you even in the picture?



Of course! The problem is that I'm not generous enough to completely disappear as a person and become his slave :p



Sérieux.



Well that's a positive spin if there ever was one!

Mr Needy and Mr insecure need to get their act together for their own sake. Also because they're being annoying.



:lol:



He doesn't even need to go to the gym. But he should do some physical activity...even mild things like walking / hiking together or going on bike rides...anything he enjoys as long as he doesn't have a completely sedentary lifestyle.



Nah...my line of work requires a lot of computer use too. But that does not excuse being in front of a screen 15 hours a day.



It's tough for women out there, man! :lol:



My line of work requires travelling too. Travelling together is ok :p

I just don't want someone who is always away with work.



I'm allergic to cats :lol::lol::lol:



I see what you did there!

Skunk retired! I read his resignation note a few days ago :)
@LVV is still here :) he should show up here and tick the boxes of your laundry list and tell you "My Lady" :)
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
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You all have just as long of a laundry list. You just don't know it yet. You'll find out after you're married and your spouse starts getting on your nerves :p

Lists don't matter when you meet the right guy :)
 

GrumpForTrump

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For me it's never about what's socially acceptable, first dates where the man insists on paying despite me going out of my way to pay and after I explicitly tell him it makes me uncomfortable just because he wants to show me "he's a gentleman" actually backfire... What this tells me is that he's a "nice guy" and definitely not genuine, insisted on paying just because it's the social protocol and not because I'm comfortable with it, not to mention him paying comes with a set of expectations, like I paid for your meal I get to kiss you good night or whatever...

My policy back when I was dating was first date either I pay for myself, or the both of us, or there won't be a second date!

I don't think that makes him a jerk. It's just the way things are.
It's more an act of gallantry, rather than "machoism".
Similar to opening the car's door or pulling out the woman's chair at dinner.
Society holds women to a higher standard than men.
They are supposed to be "chased after" and not the other way around.

It's for the same reason women don't propose to men.
Imagine a girl getting on her knee and proposing to a guy.
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
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I don't think that makes him a jerk. It's just the way things are.
It's more an act of gallantry, rather than "machoism".
Similar to opening the car's door or pulling out the woman's chair at dinner.
Society holds women to a higher standard than men.
They are supposed to be "chased after" and not the other way around.

It's for the same reason women don't propose to men.
Imagine a girl kneeling on her knee and proposing to a guy.

Yeah guys who open car doors or pull my chair out also annoy me! I would rather go out with a guy who respects my one and only request of i'm paying for myself or the both of us than some jerk who wants to fight me for the bill!
 

GrumpForTrump

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You all have just as long of a laundry list. You just don't know it yet. You'll find out after you're married and your spouse starts getting on your nerves :p

That's why I don't believe in romantic love.
There's nothing such as "unconditional love" or "love at first sight".
We all have a pre-set list of requirements when looking for a partner.
We want them to be smart, funny, beautiful, and healthy.

As time runs out, we become less selective and waive some of these rules.

Most people can't distinguish between "lust" and "love".
 

gramsci

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the good manner is in my opinion just faking and mise en scène . I always had a dream in a love story that start with a bank rubbery and then escape to mexico,with the police after u , :D like in the movie of alec baldwin and kim basinger..
 

Isabella

The queen of "Bazella"
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That's why I don't believe in romantic love.
There's nothing such as "unconditional love" or "love at first sight".
We all have a pre-set list of requirements when looking for a partner.
We want them to be smart, funny, beautiful, and healthy.

As time runs out, we become less selective and waive some of these rules.

Most people can't distinguish between "lust" and "love".

As I said to indie when you meet the right person you realise that your list doesn't matter! It's not that you're less selective or whatever it's that he or she is literally your person! It won't matter if he listens to your silly little requests or doesn't, wears Birkenstocks or whatever... Something you thought was a deal breaker becomes something you absolutely adore about your partner...

You can make all the lists you want to make, the person you fall in love with will never check all your boxes, and yes love does exist it's not just lust that's so cynical
 

GrumpForTrump

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As I said to indie when you meet the right person you realise that your list doesn't matter! It's not that you're less selective or whatever it's that he or she is literally your person! It won't matter if he listens to your silly little requests or doesn't, wears Birkenstocks or whatever... Something you thought was a deal breaker becomes something you absolutely adore about your partner...

You can make all the lists you want to make, the person you fall in love with will never check all your boxes, and yes love does exist it's not just lust that's so cynical

I "respectfully" disagree. There's nothing such as "coup de foudre" or "falling in love". It's not a chemical reaction or the product of the universe bringing two soulmates together. That was invented by Hollywood.

Love, like friendship, comes with time. The more values you share the closer your become. The more hardships your overcome together the stronger your relationship becomes.

Your partner must have double-ticked the first box on your list. The one that really matters.
No one gets hit by Cupid's arrow. The only unconditional acceptance is that of a mother.
 

Isabella

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I "respectfully" disagree. There's nothing such as "coup de foudre" or "falling in love". It's not a chemical reaction or the product of the universe bringing two soulmates together. That was invented by Hollywood.

Love, like friendship, comes with time. The more values you share the closer your become. The more hardships your overcome, the stronger your relationship becomes.

Your partner must have double-ticked the first box on your list. The one that really matters.
No one gets hit by cupid's arrow. The only unconditional acceptance is that of a mother.

I never said love was a coup de foudre, I hated my husband 12 years ago when we first met, yet he is truly the love of my life!

And yes that's what love is, it starts with mutual understanding, friendship, then overcoming hardship...

However the right person is never someone that ticks all your boxes, the right person is someone who makes you realise your boxes are incredibly silly! Like for example I wanted someone who would always challenge me on my list, you know what happens with someone who always challenges you? You fight all the bloody time!
 

GrumpForTrump

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I never said love was a coup de foudre, I hated my husband 12 years ago when we first met, yet he is truly the love of my life!

And yes that's what love is, it starts with mutual understanding, friendship, then overcoming hardship...

However the right person is never someone that ticks all your boxes, the right person is someone who makes you realise your boxes are incredibly silly! Like for example I wanted someone who would always challenge me on my list, you know what happens with someone who always challenges you? You fight all the bloody time!

Would you have married him had you not been physically attracted to him?
 
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